Couples who live together, do you and your partner or spouse go to bed at the same time?

My husband thinks couples should go to bed at the same time. Obviously that's nice sometimes but I don;t think it's always practical..one half may be watching something on TV or working on projects of their own...what is your routine with this?Couples who live together, do you and your partner or spouse go to bed at the same time?
More often than not we go to bed at the same time. However if he wants to watch the boxing that starts late he will stay up and watch it on his own as I hate boxing.Couples who live together, do you and your partner or spouse go to bed at the same time?
My partner and I (engaged) don't always go to bed at the same time. Sometimes it's nice to go to bed at the same time, but it's also nice knowing that it's not expected of you. I don't expect it of him, if he's watching something on tv or playing ps3 etc.





Relationships are about compromise, not constantly being joined at the hip and doing everything the other person does! You still need to maintain who you are and make your own choices.
I like going to bed at the same time as my partner, for a talk, and a cuddle... and what couples do in bed. lol.


But sometimes I'll stay up and watch a movie or a programme I want to watch and creep up to bed later, as not to wake him up as he is a bad sleeper. He never stays up later than I do though - thats unheard of!


I don't think theres a rule; you should be comfortable enough to go to bed together, and be comfortable enough not to go to bed together.


When you go to bed at different times and get up at different times and don't have the time to have sex and be intimate; I think thats where the problems start!
It depends on both of you. At the weekends, we are doing the same things, so we tend to go to bed at the same time. Also, during the week, if we are out we go to bed together when we get in.





Other weekday evenings, one of us might go to bed before the other. We don't watch the same stuff on tv most of the time, so spend evenings in different rooms. So it makes it hard to gauge how tired the other person is. Also, we get up 2 hours apart, so going to bed together doesn't always make sense! When one of us is going to bed, we say goodnight to the other, and they say whether they will be in soon, and to leave the light on, or whether they will be up for more than half an hour more so turn the light off.





Every day at work is different, and everyone reacts to it differently, so the same person will need different amounts of sleep on different nights. So we don't have a routine. Also, we don't have a rut, which is important for couples. It's a fine line between the two - believe me!
My wife and I normally go to bed at the same time but if one of us is watching something or busy on the computer etc and the other is tired then the tired one normally goes to bed and the other follows once theyre done. Also happens when we've had a fight to stay out of each others ways for a bit.
My husband and I hardly ever go to bed at the same time, he has to be up for work at 4:30am so he goes to bed around 9/9:30, and I don't need much sleep so go to bed around midnight. But sometimes I will go to bed with him and have the tv on silently but then he moans because he can't sleep, so I can't really win! If I go to bed with him early I lie there wide awake for hours. I must say though, I don't feel it is healthy, you should try to go to bed at the same time, or follow up close behind. I wish mine and my husbands body clocks were similar, I'm a night person, he is a morning person! maybe that will change when we have kids!
Well I agree that sometimes nothing beats hitting the sheets and sleeping at the same time.Its a comfort thats hard to beat(except for Chocolate Pudding JOKING) But a marriage or living together is a partnership and is based on eachothers needs. I used to go to bed the same time my now ex did,and other times I was up past her bed time working on arrest reports or planning missions for the next days work.Its a give and take thing and if you two are a good couple this shouldnt pose an issue at all mearly something that you can work thru together
If either he or I were watching something fascinating on TV or working on something interesting, we would still go to bed when the other was tired. We have known too many couples where one has used excuses to stay up as an avoidance technique, and then wondered why their marriage wasn't close or broke down, to believe going to bed at the same time isn't important.
Me %26amp; my wife usually go to bed at the same time unless she needs to brief cases / prep for tomorrows work schedule. It's not simply an increased chance of having sex (though it exists) but simply a time in which we become closer (during the day / evening you don't always make the time). Usually we go upstairs to bed at 9 pm but don't actually turn out the lights for sleep until 10 pm - 12pm. We talk, joke around, have sex, she reads, I get a back rub, she gets a foot rub, maybe poor a glass of wine etc.
Most of the time no..my hubby has a sleep apnea he has to take sleeping pills just to be able to get to the point of wanting to lay down. which is hard for me because i sleep better when i know he is in the bed. If i go to sleep without him or before him im up every hour till i know hes beside me. Hes a marine so his schedule is whacky at certain times of the month, he has a field op coming up hell be gone for a month thats a long time to not get much sleep.
It is nice when you go to bed together, when my husband and I first got married we usually ended up going to bed at the same time. Now we tend to go up to bed at the same time and he dose work on the laptop or watches tv. I think it varies from couple to couple and you should do what is right for you both.
No, I am a lark %26amp; he is a night owl.....but it works...





I get up earlier than he does and by the time he gets up to get ready for work I've watered, fed walked the dog, fed the cat,made coffee, set the breakfast table, ran an iron over his shirt and pants, and started a load of laundry.





So the offset is not grumbling at me when I start to 'fade'.....I'm in bed by 10, he by midnight.


...and he knows if he wishes he can always wake me up *wink*
nope! I try and stay up as long as I can with my partner but usually end up going to bed at around 11pm, my partner makes the most of his time to himself and is up to around 3am, I get up at 7am with the wee one, my partner has to be almost physically forced out of bed at 8.50am to take me to work for 9am, hes not a morning person at all!
my mans the same way, but your right it cant be an every-time thing. Just remember you love him and make compromises when you can, they'll always be a re-run or you can tape it. But if your working on a project that's important then he needs to compromisee. he can A. Stay awake until your ready or B. go to bed alone.
My husband went to bed earlier than I did. For him the room had to be dark and completely silent. I liked to read and watch TV. We're divorced now and I completely enjoy setting the timer on the TV and watching TV until I fall asleep. Does he like to snuggle or does he want you available to have sex? Compromise. No point in giving him his way all the time.
We don't always go to sleep at the same time but we always lay down together. We talk for a while ....or whatever....and then when whoever is tired falls asleep the other one gets back up for a while. It's really rare for us to go to bed alone b/c he's gone alot for work so when he is home we like that time together.
most of the time we do, unless one of us is watching something or one of us (normally me) has fallen asleep on the sofa! or if im watching one thing and he is watching the football upstairs but 99% of the time we go bed together, we both work at the same place so get up the same time too!!!
We both go to bed whenever we want. That's normal isn't it? If one of us wants sex we make it clear to the other that that's what we want and then we both go to bed at the same time....but I do like to be woken up when he comes to bed too if I have gone first! :-)
my ex used to be like this and i thought it was a pathetic way to be! theres only one reason men are like this and its for selfish reasons - as in they may want to have sex and they want to ensure if they want it their partner is there awake to have it with!!
its not realistic. i never went to bed same time as any of my partners. not even my current one. i end up falling asleep in his lap halfway into a movie. he's a night owl, and i cant sleep beyond 9am or so. it works, cos i can get things done in the morning.
Husband and wife can go to bed at different time but the bed should be same... Their bonding of love should be so strong and charming that the partner who went to bed first will not feel disturbed when the second partner comes to bed later on....
me and my husband goes to bed together ALWAYS. i don't know but it makes either one of us could not go to sleep with out the other in the bedroom at least.
My husband and I go to bed at the same time about 90% of the time. Sometimes I stay up and read for a little while. It has never caused a problem.
We always go to bed at the same time, most times we go to sleep at the same time too. There are times when one goes to sleep before the other one, but we are still in bed together.
Not same time all the time...sometimes he's watching a movie and I'm so tired so I go to sleep. I end up waking up again when he gets in the bed, we snuggle up and then I go back to sleep again with him!
my husband goes to bed at like 6pm so i'll go lay down and talk to him for a while then i'll get back up and go watch t.v. or finish what i was doing
Yes and no. He likes me to go to bed early with him but i've always been a late sleeper all my life so i try to sleep early with him but it doesn't always work out.
No, when my husband was here he went to bed at 9am because he had formation at like 5am. I on the other hand had school, and that forced me to stay up late!!!
we dont even go to the same bed together haha, i think thats silly, i dont need someone to tell me when to sleep and dont always feel sleepy when he does
I quite often go to bed before my other half, I would be asleep on the sofa otherwise! I need 8 or more hours sleep and he can survive on a hell of a lot less!!
Almost always. We try to do everything together :)