Does anyone regret not saving themselves for their spouse?

I got into another argument at work with the coworker about premarital sex. I said that a person might feel insecure if they were a virgin when they got married but their spouse was promiscuous before them. He says it shouldn't matter. I'm wondering if there is anyone who regrets not saving themself for their virginity for spouse?Does anyone regret not saving themselves for their spouse?
My husband and I waited to have sex until we were married. The wedding night was amazing and so incredibly special I could never explain it to anyone. We were both 19. We are 26, still married and we get along great. We have learned everything we know from eachother. All my girlfriends want my husband because when we're anywhere near eachother even if in a large group of people, we only have eyes for eachother and we will still flirt across the room and meet up for a little ';fun time';. Some people say we're missing out, but we think their the one missing out. What we have is incredibly special, and I don't think it would have been the same if we would have not been eachothers first.


But you also have to look at the fact since we first started wanting sex, we both had strong desires to give our selves to our future mate, so we had to push a lot of people off us and walk away from a lot of situations. We were both strong and deturmined, and met when we were 17, even though we knew we were ';the one'; for eachother, we waited just incase. It takes a lot of will power to do that, so when our night fineally came, it was the most wonderful moment of our lives.


We had sex at least 10 times each day of our honeymoon, and here, 7 years later, we have sex 2 or 3 times a day and more on the weekend since we get it off. We are spontanious and act just like people who meet in clubs, except we are only with eachother. It's amazing having your best friend, who was your first time on your wedding night being by your side everyday. I could never ask for more.Does anyone regret not saving themselves for their spouse?
I know my wife regrets not waiting for me. It is something that stands between us that we cannot talk about. It rears it's head in many places and at many times. It keeps us from being one as God intended.

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Why would you argue about something like that at work - it's so inappropriate and you should know by now that it's a preference and a personal choice not a scientific fact to argue over.





I do not regret having sex before marriage and as a matter of fact I would probably regret it if I stayed a virgin. I like having sex, there's no reason I should deprive myself of it just because I didn't have a husband at the time.
The only time that there will be regret, is if a couple really has a wonderful sex life together and is really still very much in love. The maybe they may feel that it would have been fantastic to have waited till marriage.


Unfortunately, the opposite happens a lot more frequently. Couples find that their sexual needs, preferences or libido does not match the way they would like it to. If you do not discover this prior to marriage, the marriage is either going to be unhappy, or break up in any case. So at the risk of sounding promiscuous, I am for premarital sex. Not just with everyone, but certainly with someone you care for and may want to marry.


Otherwise, how do you become a good lover in any case.


Be safe.
Sharing intimacy, sex, is meant for marriage, where there is total trust and on-going love with commitment. I am so glad that I saved myself for my husband, it was so worth it because I didn't have to heal or ';get over'; past experiences. I am sure there are people who regret giving it away before marriage, but I expect most people would deny any regret because our culture applauds people never feeling shame or guilt. But we should learn from these emotions. No one ever regrets saving themselves, less baggage!
Wow, Harry - your company doesn't seem to be very demanding of its employees as this is the second post you've posted about an ';argument with a coworker.'; ;-)





That said, I''m sure there are people who do regret that, and people who don't. I personally wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test drive, and I wouldn't buy a car that *nobody* had ever taken on a test drive either.
lol well my husband %26amp; I had been married before %26amp; I have 4 kids by that first marriage, so saving myself for him wouldn't have worked....especially since we met when we were both in our fifties....





To be or not to be a virgin until marriage is a personal choice. It should not be subject to a 'right' or 'wrong' debate. And being a non-virgin doesn't mean one is promiscuous-that is a misunderstanding of the word's true meaning.
I don't think it should matter much. I haven't had sex with anyone but my husband, whereas my husband has had much broader sexual past. That doesn't make me feel insecure.


I could see a man feeling insecure if he had sex with his wife only and she had a lot of experience with other men, PROVIDED that she made him feel that way by comments she made or if she wasn't encouraging, comforting or supportive.
I don't regret it at all, in fact having sex before my fiance probably helped him out. I learned my likes and dislikes, what I need sexually and it helped. We had to learn each other in the beginning but since we already had an idea of what we liked it was a bit easier and we didn't spend months or years trying to figure each other out. Our honeymoon night will be special anyway simply because it's our wedding day and that's more than enough for me.
There have been times that I wish I would have been a virgin, but at other times I was glad I learned a thing or two before ending up with her...





I suppose the ';ideal'; situation is to remain virginal until married, but it also seems like a far-fetched reality in today's society... The reality, of course, is for the married couple to be able to work through whatever issues they may have for the benefit of their marriage.





Just my opinion...
I am on the fence with this one.





Sometimes, I look back at my sexual ';exploits'; and think about what a complete waste they were. I wish that I could know that my husband was the only man I'd ever been with.





On the other hand... I wouldn't want to go into a sexual relationship feeling like the idiot. I liked knowing what I like, and knowing that we were sexually compatible before we were married.
Actually my spouse was my first. It happened before we were married. However he had other partners before me and I do find that I can be a bit insecure at times. My insecurities are along the lines of wondering how pretty his exes were and am I prettier or pretty enough. That kind of stuff.
I do big time because to me sex is something special that you share to my ex it was just sex. He didn't deserve it and i regret it everyday.
Nope, not at all. Heck, what man 'saves himself' for a future spouse? What I do regret is not understanding what scumbags young men really are. They will say or do anything to get sex.
I do not regret it in anyway. I am still friends with my first love after 27 years.The only thing I would change is more time together. The love will last forever. By the way it was his first time also..
sometimes i do wish i would have waited a little i love my man very much but sometimes i think if i would have waited 21 yrs id gone crazy.
Yes....totally. Me and my wife had nothing to make our wedding night ';special'; because we had already done everything. I definately should have waited.
i have no regrets, my husband was my first.