I am %100 against cheating, I love my husband with all my heart He use to be very mean and uncaring to me. I stood by his side....But if he ever cheating on me I would leave. I don't care if i have to sleep on streets. I know some other people would stay. But them they are unhappy. Would leave or try to work it out? Cheating is the ultimate betrayal Do you think you would leave or stay if your spouse cheated ?
signs of a cheating spouseDo you think you would leave or stay if your spouse cheated ?
Define cheating? Is cheating just sex - oral, manual or straight? Is it emotional affair - friendships, sharing, communicating daily? Was it with a male or with a female? I guess it depends on what you are talking about and how serious it was.
I'm of the NO cheating at all mindset for the major stuff, a brief emotional affair I could possibly work through, but all cheating is based upon either something the cheater is looking for or that is not working in the relationship.
Most cheaters I have found are looking for some ego stroking or emotionally connection they aren't getting. And being cheated upon has no bearing on your beauty or attractiveness, think Christie Brinkley and her ex. McCreepy - David Cook.
It takes two people to fix a relationship where infidelity has occurred and more often than not, that is why a relationship will end is because you have two people not equally working for a relationship whether cheating is or is not part of the equation.
I'd be curious to know what your mean and uncaring husband did to change his stripes, did he grow up or have a frontal lobotomy. Character in people doesn't change that much, does it?
This is a question that many people think they have the answer to until they are in that situation.
My answer is different now that I have experienced it in my past. My ex-husband was a notorious player but in my naiveness at that time, I believed he had turned a new leaf. He was in fact being unfaithful. Before that incident, I stated that 'yes, I would leave.', to that question. During that marriage I didn't leave until some other circumstances started taking place and it was compiled. Now that that relationship is over and I am re-married, I can honestly say that 'Yes, I would leave. That would be a wrap.'; We all bring our own personal views, experiences etc. into our relationships and there are certain things that are more forgivable than others, for each individual.
People cheat for a myriad of reasons, but that does not eradicate the consequences and emotions that are left after the affair is discovered or revealed.
I consider cheating to be the ultimate betrayal in a marriage and in my opinion, it has the same affects as emotional abuse, especially if the spouse that was unfaithful does not take full responsibility for their actions.
This is the one subject that ppl call me crazy on. No I would not leave over cheating. A marriage is made out of a lot more than just sex. And to me there is love making and then there is sex. A lot of ppl cheat bc they are told they can't, or they like the rush of what could happen if they get caught. I told my husband one time that I would hope that he repected me enough as his wife not to cheat but if he did it would hurt me and I would be dissappointed in him. That if he did I probably wouldn't be intimate with him for a long time but that is where it stops bc I base my marriage on so much more than where is penis goes. And you know the amazing thing he doesn't even want to. By telling him how I felt I took that thrill of the unknown consequences from him.
wow thats hard my parents both cheated on each other about 10 years ago. It was a really tough time for everyone in the family.
my parents stayed together toughed it out the first year and then they realised that they had made the biggest mistake in their lives cheating. that another mistake would have been calling off 25 years of marriage.
if the love of my life cheated on me i would be crushed, but would think that i was lacking something that he wanted. i would allow him to stay and work it out...betray me one shame on you betray me twice shame on me i guess.
if children are involved it would probably change my decision a little.
You are right. I know people who have had open marriage. Where they were both open to have relationships. All of these marriages have ended in divorce. I don't think a marriage can be the same after a spouse has cheated. As for myself I don't think that I could stay in a marriage if I knew he had cheated. I agree with you this is the ultimate. When you have a affair your marriage is over.
Hey, i tel my partner that if he ever cheated id leave but the truth is id stay... I just couldnt see my life with out him and we have too much to just throw it away. If it was a full on affair and he was seeing the girl for weeks or whatever then i would leave, but if it was just a one of sorta thing i wouldn't i would stay and try work it out... a second time tho and he's gone.
I believe marriage IS for life (the original marriage partners, that is). I personally would not continue having relations with a spouse who was cheating..............however, no sin, even adultery dissolves what God has joined together. People may need to separate to get themselves straightened out, sometimes for a long time.
This is how I see it: everyone sins---including us. Would we want to be forgiven for our sins or kicked to the curb? What we would want for ourselves if we fell into sin is what we should extend to others, pure and simple. Blessings........
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Well, it would depend on the exact details. If we were having a rough time and she strayed, I might stay if we were working things out later. If she just decided to have a fling for the fun of it, then I'd leave. Also it would depend who she slept with, some things are not forgivable.
I would say yes I would leave, but there is always reasons to stay. With my last ex I was told I would be killed if I left... I could not leave until I was able to accept I may be dead if I did. It got to the point I had to accept dying... I am happy to say I am still alive over 3 years later. His ex girlfriend lived with us for over 5 years!
I hope that I would be more understanding to her than ending it all
without an explanation or an opportunity to reconcile
Your ';one strike and your out '; point of view seams like a
closed mined , cold hearted , sterile , unemotional view point .
I love my wife . And Love is more forgiving than that .
i bang my girlfriends sister :) she gotten over it.. after that, i got a taste of reality that i might lose her forever, so i have change for the better forever and never put myself in that situation... and the results from me from cheating is to love my gf even more everyday...
ITS THE TEMPTATION!! even you will cheat on ur husband if the tempatation is so much and sweet.
we are all humans... we will all at the apple in garden of even if we are tempted TRUST ME!
It entirely depends on the circumstances and his desire to change and make ammends. People are too eager to end a relationship at the slightest hint of trouble these days. People make mistakes, they regret them, and they can change. We have to beleive in that or we are lost.
No, I couldn't and wouldn't stay with him. He knows that would break my heart into pieces and if he's okay with doing that than he doesn't love me. Just like I could never do it to him because I never want to do ANYTHING to hurt my hubby
if it is the man that cheats i don't see it as much of a problem but if it is the woman that cheat it is very bad according to the Bible!
. most people would not stay you have to think about it .
you will always be wondering will they do it again .
i would not be worth the turmoil . you would owe it to yourself not to stay
Infidelity means marriage, for me, would be a wrap.
My mother was proven to be an adulteress about one year ago... and 33 years of a mirage was gone with the wind.
I am never getting married, forget about it!!!
If my husband cheated on me I would give him another chance but he would be making it up to me in more ways than one and if he did it again I would leave him no if's,and's or but's about it.
I wouldn't stay
Like you said cheating is the ultimate betrayl
I don't believe in cheating
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT
The second I found out he'd be out on the streets don't care where he goes or what he does
Try to work it out. Marriages are not perfect.Its a struggle,
There are forces that want to pull them apart, but they persist.
Through thick or thin. Its like when they deliver mail.
I'd be gone like a freight-train. Gone like yesterday. No if, ands or buts about it. If I can't trust him, I don't want him. And I love him with all that I am.
he'd be outta my house.. for good. If he cheats on me then evedentually he doesnt love me or care about my feelings very much... and if he doesnt love or care about me then why waste my time on him.
It depends on what exactly he did
i think i would stay after the first time after that im out
I'd be gone. He knew what he was getting into with the marriage and if he can't keep his vowes than screw him. I would get the house :)
Agreed
I would kick him out.
Woot Woot!!!
If he cheats leave his @$$!!! he did it once he WILL do it again!!!
relationships go in cycles.
There is no excuse.......
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