I will be doing it ALL DAY LONG TODAY. We're going to Disneyland with my wife's sisters, and I'm not exactly pleased with my wife. She hasn't been feeling well the last few days and has complained about how I haven't given her enough TLC. This coming from the same woman who left me with our 3 year old twins for 12 hours when I was sick so she could go shopping with her mom and sisters a few weeks ago.Have you ever had to fake being happy around your spouse/partner?
%26gt;This coming from the same woman who left me with our 3 year old twins for 12 hours when I was sick so she could go shopping
Oh do shut up. I am a single dad, raising two kids by myself. I am so sick of my fellow ';men'; pussing out on caring for their own kids. Grow a pair.
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During our pre-marriage counseling, my husband and I ran across a really good piece of advice:
';Often, LOVE means acting in a loving way even when you are not feeling in a loving mood.';
Now, remember: this does NOT mean codependency, or putting up with bad, abusive, or unhealthy behaviors. I'm talking about people who love each other and are otherwise normal.
In those normal marriages, love must be a VERB, not a noun. We must do things for each other, and sometimes we must do things we don't feel like doing!
So, yes, I occasionally ';fake'; being happy. But I would never pretend for long. If something is not my husband's fault or responsibility, or if I'm still figuring out how I feel about a problem, I will hold off on making him deal with it. That's love.
When I decide I need help, or when it's time for him to be a part of my problem, I will unload. He will help. Sometimes he may have to ';fake'; that he wants to help, but he will. That's love.
This should NOT happen often, and not for very long, but occasionally, yes, this is necessary.
All the time. I'm naturally sort of honest and moody, and my wife is a total happy faker, so she HATES it when I'm myself.
After 12 years of marriage, I consciously ';act ok'; at least 3-5 times a week.
yes my husband works in a high stress job and he is away from us quite a bit when he's home I want him to have a quiet peaceful resting place so I try my best to handle things myself and not worry him unless it's absolutely neccessary.
**** upsetting them, if you're not happy being in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be in it in the first place!!
For one you're lying to yourself, for staying in it knowing that you wasn't!!!
Yeah.....i had to be that way around my soon to be ex-husband. It is a very difficult thing because then you are not really happy with yourself. Be careful not to lose yourself in the situation.
For short PERIODS? Yes. lol I am perfectly aware that he is not God and that I am subject to moments of intense emotional feelings that don't need to be shared with a mere mortal.
Of course. Why subject someone else you your foul mood if it isn't their fault and they can't do anything about it. Anyone who says they are always completely honest about their feelings is either lying or very cruel to others.
yes, yes, yes
but if you feel like you are always walking on eggshells, it could indicate an abusive/unhealthy relationship
No, if I wasn't happy for whatever reason, I would tell them. If you're not happy in your relationship (maybe you are-sorry) then you should think about ending it. You only live once!
Every. Damn. Day...
Yes, most of the time. Look at how many people said yes and how many said no.
Unfortunately YES!
Yes. I think it happens with all married couples from time-to-time.
well everyone does that
yes but she can always tell
yes
yes
yeah. It only got ug
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