What do you think when someone says '; Me and my spouse NEVER argue or disagree.';?

Like their marriage is alwasys better than everyone elses and a fairytale.


I heard a guy on talk radio say ';if a couple says they never argue or disagree on anything, then one person dominates and one person is submissive in their marriage.';


what do you think?What do you think when someone says '; Me and my spouse NEVER argue or disagree.';?
I would say things are pretty bad between them. There's likely a fundamental lack of honesty in their communicating that is keeping them from ever arguing/disagreeing. Even if one person is submissive and another dominant they are still going to find points where they conflict. It would seem immensely boring to be sharing your life with someone that never had a differing point of view or opinion on the world and you weren't able to discuss it and both learn from each other.What do you think when someone says '; Me and my spouse NEVER argue or disagree.';?
What you heard on the radio is exactly what happens in my marriage. We rarely argue and my wife is totally dominant. I like being submissive but it's gotten out of hand and I'm trying to reverse it somewhat.





My wife has a ';my way or the highway'; personality, however she does a lot of things that I like, and frankly I rarely disagree with her, so the lack of fighting isn't that superficial. On the other hand, if I oppose her in any way she gets extremely angry and defensive, and years ago she would totally stone wall me with silent treatment for days. So I got ';conditioned'; to agreeing with her. It's not good.
I think its not a real relationship then. Everyone should express their thoughts and feelings, and its impossible to agree on everything. So if they are not getting into any arguments and always agree then one or both people are not fully expressing what they feel in the relationship.





Its lacking real communication if there is no argument. I think one of the things that holds a marriage together, is even though there are arguments and disagreements its how both people work through them and solve the problem. It takes 2 people to solve the problem... but if there are just no problems then its impossible to have a real relationship.
Bottom line not all couples argue, but all couples do disagree. For the people who say they don't then I feel sorry for them--they must be living with a clone of their self. Some couples even have other means of debate rather than arguing--but even these people do not agree with each other all the time or else they would not have an alternate way to deal with the issue.
It depends on how you define ';argue.';





My husband and I do not argue. We make the same amount of money, do equal shares of the housework, and have equal interests and education. Neither of us has more ';control'; in the marriage.





We sometimes disagree, or misunderstand each other slightly. Usually, discussions on these misunderstandings last about 10 minutes max, and we move on. We never raise our voices or behave unfairly.





Frankly, I DO think my marriage is better than most, but that's because we work very hard on it. We want to be together, and we are willing to talk things out. It probably helps that we married later in life, and both have a good knowledge of counseling and psychology.





I think it's good for couples to disagree, and no marriage is perfect. If someone is bragging about the fact that they don't fight, then they probably are lying or dealing with ';secret'; issues.





However, if YOU ask someone, and they say ';no, we don't fight,'; you should believe them.





It's rare, but it does happen!





Good question... thanks for asking!
If someone said that to me, I would think they were uneducated because of their horrible grammar, and then I would think they are full of crap. Either they're full of crap, or they're in a terribly unhealthy relationship. Married couples will never agree on everything all the time. If that happens, someone is hiding something, or subduing their own feelings, and it will eventually get to be too much. Unhealthy.
Well i agree w/the guy on the radio. my hubs is more submissive and i'm more dominate but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. my hubs is just really laid back, and i'm very outspoken. opposites attract!





we DO have disagreements, but we don't ';argue';- meaning we don't yell at each other, we don't call names. my husband has never raised his voice to me, nor me to him...it's called respect....but i get what you mean. still we must be doing something right, 8 yrs of marriage, known each other for 10yrs and have 4 kids.....and we are both still sane and have a great relationship. hmm.....yep!





course i never say this thinking it's all ';fairytale'; or perfect and never to try and act superior, it just is what it is.
LIE


Everyone argues. It's healthy to argue. It's helps you figure out the needs of the other person. If you are in a relationship and NEVER had a fight, someone in that relationship is holding back a WHOLE lot of stuff, and I don't want to be around when it all comes out.
It depends on how it's put... like, I would say, my husband and I don't fight. When I say that, I don't mean we never disagree. I mean, we don't yell at each other, and we don't say hurtful things. We DO disagree and we occasionally snap at each other. I think my husband doesn't disagree with me enough (or I should say, he doesn't SAY he disagrees). He really hates confrontation and hates to be embarrassed or look bad in any way.





Actually, people need to disagree and they need to air their disagreements. But you can still do it respectfully.
Hmm...





I would think that they:





Don't live in the same State, or Possibly Country





Don't have ANY means to communicate with one another while living in a different State or Country





Don't speak the same language (Literally!)





Are incapable of writing nasty notes since they cannot speak the same language...





LOL Everyone has disagreements and arguments
To me it sounds like some one is holding back their feelings and opinions just to keep from conflict. I've heard of couples hardly ever fighting but never? Someone is full of it or has a really unstable relationship. Its healthy to release your feelings, you don't always have to be on your best behavior people.
It could be a dom/sub thing. But I think it's more of a matter of flat out lying. People get on each other's nerves after spending enough time together, no matter how much they get along, have in common, or like each other. If they haven't fought yet, step back and hide because the explosion is coming. Do not get caught in the crossfire.
That person is either full of crap, or gets the crap beat out of them, and is afraid to say different.


I love my husband to death, and wouldn't trade him in for anything, but to say we never argue or disagree is asinine.
One of three possibilities...





1. They are lying.





2. One of them calls EVERY shot and the other just goes along with it.





3. They are that one in a million.





The number who claim to be this kind of couple is much more common than one in a million.
I would think they are lying, however when my mom was alive, we never saw her and my dad fight. They were both very humble and laid back. They might have fought when we were not around, but I have to think that I guess it COULD happen.....








Although that is NOT the way my marriage was.
I agree with the guy on the radio. I also feel that two people who never argue or disagree have a relationship with no communication.
i would think they were lying. i can see where the radio person is coming from, one is a door mat while the other is doing what they please. sounds unhealthy to me.
I would have to somewhat agree with that. I tend to be very dominant and we do not fight very often. I don't like to fight so, we try to discuss and move on.
I thinks is untrue, everyone has differences and disagrees at times, so they probably arent communication there real feelings, and this will soon cause problems in due time.
Probably true.





Just say, ';Oh you're so lucky to live in Stepford-ville';, and then walk away.
I think that sounds strange.





It isn't normal....IMO.





(( I'm sure that if we had heard the second part of Cinderella's story, we would have found out that her marriage to Prince Charming WASN'T perfect at all...! ))
I think it's an outright lie that they say to look superior to others. Everyone argues with their spouse at some point. It might not be a knock down drag out fight but they still argue.
I always think of two things.


1) they are lying


or


2) what a freakin boring relationship that must be.
I would say that someone is full of it! Everyone disagrees and has a heated conversation in the least
i think they do bicker but dont think its arguing or disagreeing.





i use to be one of those but at time went by it wasnt a fairytale after all !








they lie !!!!!
I don't think my wife and I have argued in the 17yrs we have been married. Disagree on things daily.
People do say that. Then they have kids. And that changes.
if they never argue one of them is probably in a coma
I think they are lying ...
That they are lying!!!
I think they are talking about my relationship. We just don`t argue!