Age old tragedy :
Woman marries a man thinking he will change .... he doesnt
Man marries a woman thinking she will not change....She doesAnyone get married young and have your spouse flip out around 30?
My husband and I met at 20, married at 26. At 30 I didn't flip out. The older you get the more mature you seem to be. At 30, specifically mid 30's I realized that I was more self confident. I no longer cared about some of the things I thought were important or seems to consume my thoughts. I was not as jealous. I was not as controlling. I blew things off easier. Good for her. She should live for herself instead of putting other people first. If she is happy with herself then all people around her will be much happier in her presence. Now if she is saying she wants to live by herself and leave you then counseling may be in order.
We are a funny lot us women eh!
Perhaps she feels you have changed too, why else would she say she's done? Women don't just flip for no reason, the same as men don't. All this it is supposed to be that women work in 7 year cycles in regards to their maturing. I know that at 40 I am so different to what I was at 33, and at 26 was different too.
You need to ask what's changed in both your lives to see the root of the problem, but failing that there is not much you can do sorry.
Yes, this sounds normal. Only remember that her behaviour has nothing to do with you. If she's feeling something, she owns it to you to discuss whatever it is and together, you can see how to make the relationship better. We shouldn't just want out simply because things are not what we expected them to be. Marriage takes work, and I mean REAL work and it's not quite a fairytail like we've been made to believe, it's a mixture of good and bad days, happiness and sadness, joy, misery, love, anger, etc.
Do the very best you can do to save your marriage and to work things through with her, but she has to meet you half way.
There's always light at the end of the tunnel no matter how this will end.
Wish you all the best.
http://www.sheknows.com/articles/805044.鈥?/a> (8 things no one tells you about marriage) should make a humorous reading.
doing things like drugs ? drinking ? clubbing ?
or just normal stuff like sports ? going out to see friends more often ? etc ..
women go through this phase when they feel that nothing good they did seems to be appreciated and that she prioritized people around her and out herself in last place and discovered that these people were not worth it .. i would do the same if i were her
maybe you're not good in showing ur appreciation in what she does ? took her for granted and stopped doing sweet things u used to do ? or maybe you broke her heart ?
my wife was doing the same thing she refused counseling she said we were to young to get married i ended up finding out she was sharing her feelings with a younger guy maybe she thought if she got somebody young she would feel young herself(good luck)
women have several crisis time. the first one is around 30, then around 40 then around menopause. so yes, she has middle life crisis and yes, mostly women dump whoever they have been with at that age and find someone way much better. well, i did
women have several crisis time. the first one is around 30, then around 40 then around menopause. so yes, she has middle life crisis and yes, mostly women dump whoever they have been with at that age and find someone way much better. well
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