Nothing has been settled in courts which has been ongoing, no orders have been made. Found out that ex has been completely renovating the home from insulation to new drywall and flooring. Can a spouse even do all this work without discussing this with the other spouse and co-borrower of the mortgage?After separation in Canada can the spouse residing in the home take out loans without other spouses signature?
As long as the separation is legal and the judge granted the separation...
Saturday, January 9, 2010
How do You Fix A Relationship When Your Spouse Have Cheated?
Can It Still Work? Or Should You Just Move On To Another?How do You Fix A Relationship When Your Spouse Have Cheated?
I wouldn't even bother.
I wasted two years on my now ex-fiance after he cheated on me.
SO NOT WORTH IT.
Once you break a glass and then you try to put it back together.
You're missing parts and there are still cracks and holes.
Its never the same.
Ask yourself this; can you honestly just forgive and forget? I know I didn't.
Obviously he didn't respect you enough to care about you or your feelings.
Maybe its time you let go.How do You Fix A Relationship When Your Spouse Have Cheated?
I agree with soinlove3.
It can work, but you have to be willing. The other party will usually be willing unless otherwise said, but alot of it is up to you.
If you can trust, which is not instantaneous, then yes. It's completely understandable for it to take time for that trust to be rebuilt and if you should choose to move forward that should be established ground for both of you. Don't let him rush you to get over it, but you can't drag it on for years, because even though it was wrong and the last thing you want to think of is the cheater's feelings, it's not fair... to either of you.
But! Because this is where alot of people seem to go wrong; You need to forgive. REALLY forgive. If you can't, then move on. So many people stay in relationships when they've been cheated on and use that wrong as leverage and you CAN'T do that, ie; If you do something he feels is wrong, and you come back with, ';well, you cheated on me, so...';
To make it work, you have to be able to forgive -- not forget, because that's not going to happen -- and move past it.
Trust is easily given, but once lost almost never returned.
If you have no children with him... I'd start new, I personally could not trust anyone who has cheated on me. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Good luck. If you can escape without much lost baggage... just call it a lesson learned. If you have a lot of baggage especially children, then you may want to stick it out for the sake of the children.
good luck
it depends. if you think you could rebuild the trust that you had then you should try to work things out. it's definitely not an easy thing to do but if you both want it to work out then you should rebuild the relationship even though it takes time.
NO i never trying to cheat i have an idea to manage all those thing i never let any one in bad atmosphere i am always with my spouse i never goes to address them for any harm if the communities have better adviser in front i really obey and do better
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I wouldn't even bother.
I wasted two years on my now ex-fiance after he cheated on me.
SO NOT WORTH IT.
Once you break a glass and then you try to put it back together.
You're missing parts and there are still cracks and holes.
Its never the same.
Ask yourself this; can you honestly just forgive and forget? I know I didn't.
Obviously he didn't respect you enough to care about you or your feelings.
Maybe its time you let go.How do You Fix A Relationship When Your Spouse Have Cheated?
I agree with soinlove3.
It can work, but you have to be willing. The other party will usually be willing unless otherwise said, but alot of it is up to you.
If you can trust, which is not instantaneous, then yes. It's completely understandable for it to take time for that trust to be rebuilt and if you should choose to move forward that should be established ground for both of you. Don't let him rush you to get over it, but you can't drag it on for years, because even though it was wrong and the last thing you want to think of is the cheater's feelings, it's not fair... to either of you.
But! Because this is where alot of people seem to go wrong; You need to forgive. REALLY forgive. If you can't, then move on. So many people stay in relationships when they've been cheated on and use that wrong as leverage and you CAN'T do that, ie; If you do something he feels is wrong, and you come back with, ';well, you cheated on me, so...';
To make it work, you have to be able to forgive -- not forget, because that's not going to happen -- and move past it.
Trust is easily given, but once lost almost never returned.
If you have no children with him... I'd start new, I personally could not trust anyone who has cheated on me. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Good luck. If you can escape without much lost baggage... just call it a lesson learned. If you have a lot of baggage especially children, then you may want to stick it out for the sake of the children.
good luck
it depends. if you think you could rebuild the trust that you had then you should try to work things out. it's definitely not an easy thing to do but if you both want it to work out then you should rebuild the relationship even though it takes time.
NO i never trying to cheat i have an idea to manage all those thing i never let any one in bad atmosphere i am always with my spouse i never goes to address them for any harm if the communities have better adviser in front i really obey and do better
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At4bHklpYTk.ezmKoNSm_Ersy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090909141350AAa30h6
If you could ask the person who your spouse cheated with one question, what would it be?
Most people are curious what the other person looks like. I am curious what would you ask if you had the chance.If you could ask the person who your spouse cheated with one question, what would it be?
When my ex cheated on me. He put her on his top 8 on myspace (immature) well, he was TDY to a military training base and she was strait out of bootcamp. I emailed her on her myspace and said ';listen, I know you and my husband are doing your thing but he's refusing to sign my divorce papers now that I know about you I have filed and I would appreciate it if you would back off...I know you're a trainee there so you should be well aware that adultery is against the uniform code of military justice. When he's divorced you can have at him but until then...keep your hands off him or I will contact your commander'; she wrote me back and said she was SO sorry and that he told he he was single and blah blah blah. I believe her. She never talked to him again after that....it wasn't my point to break them up, I just wanted my divorce papers signed.
So I have no questions. No what if's or anything.If you could ask the person who your spouse cheated with one question, what would it be?
I would not want to ask that person anything. But I would want to hear from my spouse.
Usually Affairs are not even about that other woman. They are just a convenient body or listening ear or the pamperer.
The bigger issue is that their wife is not meeting their needs so the men feel like they have to go outside the marriage. This usually goes for women that go outside the marriage as well. So the person chooses to go astray usually without attempting to communicate their needs to their spouse effectively or without avail.
Another Woman would never concern me, because if I am taking care of my man like I am supposed to then no other woman would have the room to creep in.
wow this one is difficult i sat for a while pondering what question would be appropriate to ask or at this point i think appropriate would probably go out the window. You cant simply ask one question because then that question will lead to another and other and other and you simply would not be satisfied regardless what the answer was and how much sense it made. I guess in the end i would just want to know what it was that he/she saw in my spouse that they could not find in someone else. Then like i said i would probably want to ask more. And i guess in the end it would just be better to not ask at all.
My first husband cheated on me, and remained in the relationship with her throughout and after our divorce. I have met her before, a couple times when I was dropping off/picking up my kids from his apartment.
Lets just say it's very awkward, and our conversation has only amounted to a cordial 'Hello'. I don't really think I want to discuss anything with her, and I have moved on from that relationship and am now happily remarried. It was my ex's choice to go astray, and I hope he regrets it (for his children's sake), but I don't want to cause any more problems between us.
I was cheated on and my husband left me for another woman. I was 27 years of age he was 30 he left me for a 43 year old woman. I couldn't believe it. I really didn't have any questions I wanted to ask her. I wanted to tell her off and I did. I called over her house one time to talk to him and she babbled on about what a good son I had and what a great man my husband was and how lucky she was to have both of them in her life. All I could do was tell her what a fool she was. I was very upset and cried at first and then I would laugh because she was an idiot lol. He ended up cheating on her leaving her for another and did this twice to her. She was going to go back to him for the 4th time and had a heart attack at the age of 53 and passed away. I really felt bad for her. I could chalk my mistake up as being young and dumb. I met him when I was 21 and was in a huge hurry to get married thinking I was an old maid (what a joke lol). Her on the other hand was 43 she should of knew better and not only made a mistake by going out with a married guy but he left her and did the same thing to her and she went back for more abuse. He isn't good looking either lol. He is boring. No sense of humor whatsoever. Only wants to be in front of the T.V. He is a pot head. He has lived with 7 other women in 12 years. Some woman are so stupid me being one of them to marry such a man myself. Sorry so long. You cannot change a leopards spots. My ex husband lied about me. He told everyone I was crazy and that I was a terrible mother however he didn't fight for custody of our child. He told her a bunch of lies. She fell for it and got returned the favor before she died.
You know, this never occurred to me. I never blamed the other person. My husband's behavior was his; he's responsible for it. I don't care one iota about this other person's motives or intentions.
A spouse/SI can't be ';stolen'; unless they're willing to be.
what would you ask?
My man isn't cheating on me (that I know of) so I haven't given it much thought.
I think I would wonder more what I wasn't doing or how I was too busy to not notice. AND more importantly is he emotionally attached %26amp; in love with this woman.
*I thing Gracie is Right on*
My first husband cheated. I had no desire to ask her anything or to see her. Why? She did not cheat on me or break her marriage vows, he did.
Why couldn't you have showed up beforehand and married her, instead of me marrying this witch.
I have lots of possible questions but you only need one...
';Don't you have a happy family?';
That's why she's doing it to other people... to get a revenge!
Was this a one nite stand or a relationship?
';Where the fluck is your honor?';
what question?? just a fist to the face.
did you know he was married. You'd be suprised how many don't
It wont be a question, it will be a punch right to her f*ing face...
how long? or Did you know he was married
which would she prefer - a broken eye socket or nose...
whom do you like more?
Why won't you keep him now that I have no more use for him?
How does my pecker taste?
When my ex cheated on me. He put her on his top 8 on myspace (immature) well, he was TDY to a military training base and she was strait out of bootcamp. I emailed her on her myspace and said ';listen, I know you and my husband are doing your thing but he's refusing to sign my divorce papers now that I know about you I have filed and I would appreciate it if you would back off...I know you're a trainee there so you should be well aware that adultery is against the uniform code of military justice. When he's divorced you can have at him but until then...keep your hands off him or I will contact your commander'; she wrote me back and said she was SO sorry and that he told he he was single and blah blah blah. I believe her. She never talked to him again after that....it wasn't my point to break them up, I just wanted my divorce papers signed.
So I have no questions. No what if's or anything.If you could ask the person who your spouse cheated with one question, what would it be?
I would not want to ask that person anything. But I would want to hear from my spouse.
Usually Affairs are not even about that other woman. They are just a convenient body or listening ear or the pamperer.
The bigger issue is that their wife is not meeting their needs so the men feel like they have to go outside the marriage. This usually goes for women that go outside the marriage as well. So the person chooses to go astray usually without attempting to communicate their needs to their spouse effectively or without avail.
Another Woman would never concern me, because if I am taking care of my man like I am supposed to then no other woman would have the room to creep in.
wow this one is difficult i sat for a while pondering what question would be appropriate to ask or at this point i think appropriate would probably go out the window. You cant simply ask one question because then that question will lead to another and other and other and you simply would not be satisfied regardless what the answer was and how much sense it made. I guess in the end i would just want to know what it was that he/she saw in my spouse that they could not find in someone else. Then like i said i would probably want to ask more. And i guess in the end it would just be better to not ask at all.
My first husband cheated on me, and remained in the relationship with her throughout and after our divorce. I have met her before, a couple times when I was dropping off/picking up my kids from his apartment.
Lets just say it's very awkward, and our conversation has only amounted to a cordial 'Hello'. I don't really think I want to discuss anything with her, and I have moved on from that relationship and am now happily remarried. It was my ex's choice to go astray, and I hope he regrets it (for his children's sake), but I don't want to cause any more problems between us.
I was cheated on and my husband left me for another woman. I was 27 years of age he was 30 he left me for a 43 year old woman. I couldn't believe it. I really didn't have any questions I wanted to ask her. I wanted to tell her off and I did. I called over her house one time to talk to him and she babbled on about what a good son I had and what a great man my husband was and how lucky she was to have both of them in her life. All I could do was tell her what a fool she was. I was very upset and cried at first and then I would laugh because she was an idiot lol. He ended up cheating on her leaving her for another and did this twice to her. She was going to go back to him for the 4th time and had a heart attack at the age of 53 and passed away. I really felt bad for her. I could chalk my mistake up as being young and dumb. I met him when I was 21 and was in a huge hurry to get married thinking I was an old maid (what a joke lol). Her on the other hand was 43 she should of knew better and not only made a mistake by going out with a married guy but he left her and did the same thing to her and she went back for more abuse. He isn't good looking either lol. He is boring. No sense of humor whatsoever. Only wants to be in front of the T.V. He is a pot head. He has lived with 7 other women in 12 years. Some woman are so stupid me being one of them to marry such a man myself. Sorry so long. You cannot change a leopards spots. My ex husband lied about me. He told everyone I was crazy and that I was a terrible mother however he didn't fight for custody of our child. He told her a bunch of lies. She fell for it and got returned the favor before she died.
You know, this never occurred to me. I never blamed the other person. My husband's behavior was his; he's responsible for it. I don't care one iota about this other person's motives or intentions.
A spouse/SI can't be ';stolen'; unless they're willing to be.
what would you ask?
My man isn't cheating on me (that I know of) so I haven't given it much thought.
I think I would wonder more what I wasn't doing or how I was too busy to not notice. AND more importantly is he emotionally attached %26amp; in love with this woman.
*I thing Gracie is Right on*
My first husband cheated. I had no desire to ask her anything or to see her. Why? She did not cheat on me or break her marriage vows, he did.
Why couldn't you have showed up beforehand and married her, instead of me marrying this witch.
I have lots of possible questions but you only need one...
';Don't you have a happy family?';
That's why she's doing it to other people... to get a revenge!
Was this a one nite stand or a relationship?
';Where the fluck is your honor?';
what question?? just a fist to the face.
did you know he was married. You'd be suprised how many don't
It wont be a question, it will be a punch right to her f*ing face...
how long? or Did you know he was married
which would she prefer - a broken eye socket or nose...
whom do you like more?
Why won't you keep him now that I have no more use for him?
How does my pecker taste?
Does my spouse's accountant need my SSN if she lives in another state, considering we are divorcing?
While divorcing we file married filling separate. She asked me for my SSN for her tax purposes and I dont want to provide it. What options do I have?Does my spouse's accountant need my SSN if she lives in another state, considering we are divorcing?
Wow! Another pile of horse manure for advice! Only ';tma'; has it right. And here's why:
You don't have an option. You must provide it, it's required by law.
The IRS cross-checks separate returns to make sure that both are properly filed. For example, if one party itemizes their deductions, the other party MUST itemize even if that amount is $0.
If you don't provide it, your return will be rejected and the IRS will assess a penalty for failure to list the SSN. If a paid preparer signed the return, they will be hit with the same penalty as well. If you don't have your estranged spouse's SSN and cannot get it despite due dilligence efforts you must attach a signed statement to your return giving their full name and address and describing the efforts you took to get the SSN.
Hint: If you're in the process of a divorce, your attorney can request it from theirs for tax filing purposes. They will get the SSN for you, trust me.Does my spouse's accountant need my SSN if she lives in another state, considering we are divorcing?
TFTP
If you look at Form 1040 under filing status you will see that if you check off ';married filing separately'; it asks for the spouse's SSN#. If you plan on filing married filing separately, you will need your wife's SSN as well. So i would suggest that you cooperate.
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f1040.pdf鈥?/a>
Just file your taxes ASAP. Other states have different rules meaning no state tax. If you do not want her to have it then don't. In CA each spouse must report half of their combine community income and deductions in addition to their separate income and deductions.Community income: property, slaires, wages, and real est, etc. Consult your tax preparer and accountant or call IRS for yourself they will answer question like this and find out what state they can also give you the number for the IRS in the state she lives in ask IRS. Call IRS. If you do not have anything just file.
There probably is a compelling need, but you
should make the accountant define what it is.
You can certainly imagine that it would be needed
for alimony issues, insurance issues, credit issues...
Doesn't matter - if the accountant is mum, you should
be too.
i would file injured spouse you file yours let her file hers.don't give up anything you dont have to.im twice divorced and went to the cleaners both time,s let her file her own taxes
Yes, married filing separately returns have to list the other spouse's social security number. You'll need hers for your return also.
If you ever filed a joint return, either of you could get a copy from the IRS that would show both numbers. So don't give the accountant a hard time - just give him or her the number.
Unfortunitly, if you guys are still married than yes. A friend of mine and her husband who are in the same situation (seperated and living in seperate states) And unfortunitly, if your spouse evades the IRS while you guys r still legally married, then the IRS has a right to come after your wages. However, the SS no is not required for all state taxes, you would have to contact your local tax agency to ask.
from what understand no she does not need it.
Wow! Another pile of horse manure for advice! Only ';tma'; has it right. And here's why:
You don't have an option. You must provide it, it's required by law.
The IRS cross-checks separate returns to make sure that both are properly filed. For example, if one party itemizes their deductions, the other party MUST itemize even if that amount is $0.
If you don't provide it, your return will be rejected and the IRS will assess a penalty for failure to list the SSN. If a paid preparer signed the return, they will be hit with the same penalty as well. If you don't have your estranged spouse's SSN and cannot get it despite due dilligence efforts you must attach a signed statement to your return giving their full name and address and describing the efforts you took to get the SSN.
Hint: If you're in the process of a divorce, your attorney can request it from theirs for tax filing purposes. They will get the SSN for you, trust me.Does my spouse's accountant need my SSN if she lives in another state, considering we are divorcing?
TFTP
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If you look at Form 1040 under filing status you will see that if you check off ';married filing separately'; it asks for the spouse's SSN#. If you plan on filing married filing separately, you will need your wife's SSN as well. So i would suggest that you cooperate.
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f1040.pdf鈥?/a>
Just file your taxes ASAP. Other states have different rules meaning no state tax. If you do not want her to have it then don't. In CA each spouse must report half of their combine community income and deductions in addition to their separate income and deductions.Community income: property, slaires, wages, and real est, etc. Consult your tax preparer and accountant or call IRS for yourself they will answer question like this and find out what state they can also give you the number for the IRS in the state she lives in ask IRS. Call IRS. If you do not have anything just file.
There probably is a compelling need, but you
should make the accountant define what it is.
You can certainly imagine that it would be needed
for alimony issues, insurance issues, credit issues...
Doesn't matter - if the accountant is mum, you should
be too.
i would file injured spouse you file yours let her file hers.don't give up anything you dont have to.im twice divorced and went to the cleaners both time,s let her file her own taxes
Yes, married filing separately returns have to list the other spouse's social security number. You'll need hers for your return also.
If you ever filed a joint return, either of you could get a copy from the IRS that would show both numbers. So don't give the accountant a hard time - just give him or her the number.
Unfortunitly, if you guys are still married than yes. A friend of mine and her husband who are in the same situation (seperated and living in seperate states) And unfortunitly, if your spouse evades the IRS while you guys r still legally married, then the IRS has a right to come after your wages. However, the SS no is not required for all state taxes, you would have to contact your local tax agency to ask.
from what understand no she does not need it.
If a step parent passes away,and his spouse has already passed away?
,who is responsible for his remaining bills,his children ,the step children,or both.If a step parent passes away,and his spouse has already passed away?
It may depend on who are the benefactors to the will, it may be that provision has been made for this event.facial moisturizer moisturiser cream
It may depend on who are the benefactors to the will, it may be that provision has been made for this event.
Can someone who is a US citizen but receiving financial aid petition for a fiance/spouse?
i am 19 years old and a born US citizen. i'd like to know if it is possible to petition for my fiance from Guyana, even though i'm still in college and receiving financial aid. and would it make a difference if i had someone to co-sponsor with me?Can someone who is a US citizen but receiving financial aid petition for a fiance/spouse?
Without sufficient income of your own, the only way you will be successful in petitioning for him is with a joint sponsor with adequate income.Can someone who is a US citizen but receiving financial aid petition for a fiance/spouse?
If you can prove that you have met, with photos together and with family, plane tickets, telephone bills, etc., and can prove financial responsibility for the person you want to sponsor, yes you can petition. If your earnings for the last three years to not prove you are financially able to support another person you may get a co-sponsor. However, being a sponsor or co-sponsor, the obligation is great in that you take full responsibility for this other person in all ways. Housing, medical, food, clothing, shelter, etc.
Doubt if you even come close to the
requirements of Sponsoring any one...
Being a Fiance ';Does Not'; give her any
special rights or privilege's...
When is the last time you were in Guyana ?
For how long ?
Are you or have you made at least 135% above
US Poverty Line for the last three years...
after tax's.
Must be proven by W-2's.
Not sure who would Co-sponsor her for Life...
As she can not ever go on Welfare or any other
Government program for Life.
That means you are responsible for
every cent of her living here for life.
Food/Clothes/Housing/Medical/Dental etc.
If you do not meet the requirement of I-864, then you must have co-sponsor to sign I-864 for you and your fiance.
http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/鈥?/a>
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.鈥?/a>
What matters is that you either have to have the necessary funds to support your future wife or someone who is willing to become your co-sponsor has the funds. So you just need a reliable co-sponsor.
Marine5: financial sponsorship only lasts until the legal alien becomes a citizen or if she doesn't want to, the time limit is 10 years. So it's not for a whole lifetime, just to be accurate...
Without sufficient income of your own, the only way you will be successful in petitioning for him is with a joint sponsor with adequate income.Can someone who is a US citizen but receiving financial aid petition for a fiance/spouse?
If you can prove that you have met, with photos together and with family, plane tickets, telephone bills, etc., and can prove financial responsibility for the person you want to sponsor, yes you can petition. If your earnings for the last three years to not prove you are financially able to support another person you may get a co-sponsor. However, being a sponsor or co-sponsor, the obligation is great in that you take full responsibility for this other person in all ways. Housing, medical, food, clothing, shelter, etc.
Doubt if you even come close to the
requirements of Sponsoring any one...
Being a Fiance ';Does Not'; give her any
special rights or privilege's...
When is the last time you were in Guyana ?
For how long ?
Are you or have you made at least 135% above
US Poverty Line for the last three years...
after tax's.
Must be proven by W-2's.
Not sure who would Co-sponsor her for Life...
As she can not ever go on Welfare or any other
Government program for Life.
That means you are responsible for
every cent of her living here for life.
Food/Clothes/Housing/Medical/Dental etc.
If you do not meet the requirement of I-864, then you must have co-sponsor to sign I-864 for you and your fiance.
http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/鈥?/a>
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.鈥?/a>
What matters is that you either have to have the necessary funds to support your future wife or someone who is willing to become your co-sponsor has the funds. So you just need a reliable co-sponsor.
Marine5: financial sponsorship only lasts until the legal alien becomes a citizen or if she doesn't want to, the time limit is 10 years. So it's not for a whole lifetime, just to be accurate...
What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
I'm trying to find out about a patient's cause of death. What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
Thank you!!What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
I would say, ';This is a difficult question to ask, and if you prefer not to answer, I understand, but for professional reasons, I need to know your husband's cause of death.';
When I was in the insurance business and we asked for a check with the application, if the customer balked, we were instructed to say, ';It's customary.';
I sometimes recall that I was filling out an application for life insurance once, and I asked the applicant, ';I need your parent's cause of death.';
He replied, without hesitation, ';homicide and suicide.'; Then he wrote me a bad check for the initial premium. I didn't go back to get another check.
You can often take cuts in line at a grocery store if you simply say to the person ahead of you, ';Do you mind if I go ahead of you, because I need to pay for this.';
The ';because I need to'; willl get you through a lot of awkward situations.What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
I would just start a nice conversation and when I got to a point where I think they are comfortable talking about it I would just ask.
Thank you!!What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
I would say, ';This is a difficult question to ask, and if you prefer not to answer, I understand, but for professional reasons, I need to know your husband's cause of death.';
When I was in the insurance business and we asked for a check with the application, if the customer balked, we were instructed to say, ';It's customary.';
I sometimes recall that I was filling out an application for life insurance once, and I asked the applicant, ';I need your parent's cause of death.';
He replied, without hesitation, ';homicide and suicide.'; Then he wrote me a bad check for the initial premium. I didn't go back to get another check.
You can often take cuts in line at a grocery store if you simply say to the person ahead of you, ';Do you mind if I go ahead of you, because I need to pay for this.';
The ';because I need to'; willl get you through a lot of awkward situations.What is a polite way of asking about cause of death to a patient's spouse?
I would just start a nice conversation and when I got to a point where I think they are comfortable talking about it I would just ask.
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